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On a lazy and laid back Sunday, let\u2019s touch on something a bit lighter, personally closer and hopefully (and logically) everyone could relate to (unless you decide not to).
The subject randomly came out during a session by Dr. Ashraf as a \u201cby the way\u201d thing, but to me it was so important that I decided to share it here. The issue has always been there, he just helped to frame and summarize it for easier understanding and remembrance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Practically, everyone knows about it, whether we realize it or want to admit it is separate thing altogether. It\u2019s something most of us do everyday, consciously or unconsciously, be it in our personal or professional capacities.
So what exactly are we talking about?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It boils down to the fact that we humans \u201cdon\u2019t want or\/and hate to be wrong\u201d<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Is this statement true? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course it is, while it is hard to admit – it is as true as it can get, for crooks and saints alike. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Admitting we are wrong or that we made a mistake, while sounds easy is one the hardest thing to do – in our current state and time, it is probably a rarity of the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What do we humans usually do when we do something wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n #1 Blame others<\/strong> The easiest way out is to blame others and the easiest targets are the innocent people who actually took action and were right in the first place. <\/p>\n\n\n\n We always hear \u201cyou didn\u2019t tell me\u201d, \u201cyou are the one who is supposed to do it\u201d or for \u2018bigger community like\u2019 matters \u201cit\u2019s the authorities who should do it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Externally, this is probably the most dangerous of the lot as it involves relationship with another party – be it an individual or an institution. #2 Excuses<\/strong> The next easiest thing to do is to come out with excuses – rational or irrational ones. In an argument, paired with blaming others, this particular action could go on and on, spiraling into a vicious cycle of excuses after excuses, just to satisfy the ego of not being wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We\u2019ve heard excuses like \u201cI didn\u2019t know\u201d, \u201cI thought you meant it that way\u201d, \u201cI didn\u2019t have enough time\u201d, \u201cI missed that point when it was said\u201d, the list goes on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If there\u2019s one thing humans are superbly creative about – it\u2019s excuses. We come out with most ridiculous and lamest excuses at times. <\/p>\n\n\n\n #3 Justification<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Justifying an action when we did something wrong seems to be easier for a lot people compared to providing justifications for doing the right things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n We can go from telling the truth to \u201chalf-truths\u201d and ending up at \u201cno-truths\u201d at all in our attempt of justifying our wrong actions, identifying with any supporting facts even if it can strengthen the justification in the slimmest or most illogical way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI did it for everyone\u2019s sake\u201d, \u201cI did it to make things easier\u201d, \u201cWe need to do it for the business.\u201d, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Internally, if it is done constantly, it has the most dangerous and detrimental impact to a person\u2019s soul as eventually it blurs the line between right and wrong, affecting a person\u2019s judgment to the core.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Hard Truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n However bad it appears to be, we can\u2019t deny that these 3 actions has sort of become a natural thing we do especially as a defense mechanism. I won\u2019t come out and lie that I\u2019ve never done these actions before or I am perfect from not doing it anymore in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But it doesn\u2019t take away the fact these are the wrong things to do in most circumstances. They are also probably the main stumbling blocks that hinders us from taking those steps to change and move forward. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So – it\u2019s really up to us on whether we want to continue to be on bandwagon of bandits or start owning up to our mistakes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n To be honest, it\u2019s not that scary to start admitting you are wrong or you\u2019ve made a mistake – at least you\u2019ve taken that first step to make things right even if the end state is still far from sight.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" On a lazy and laid back Sunday, let\u2019s touch on something a bit lighter, personally closer and hopefully (and logically) everyone could relate to (unless you decide not to). 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