Started off the day dragging myself out of bed and craving for energy as my body’s battery drained from another long night trying to get my beloved son (who is a 12 year old special child on the autism spectrum for those who haven’t noticed) to sleep.
He is without a doubt, a handful especially on days he randomly spirals out of control. But I know for a fact that there is a lot going on in his mind, and to be fair to him, most times it’s beyond his control.
Don’t believe me? See it for yourself.
So come nighttime I personally will try hard not to stimulate him as if he is triggered (which he can easily be), it will take time for him to cool down to a stable state before I can proceed on to the next mission of getting him to bed.
From the moment he lies down, I’ve sort of timed how long it takes before he actually goes to sleep. On average it takes at least 1.5 hours from the moment we get on bed to him actually falling asleep.
During this window period, I would brace myself as I have no idea what may come as every night is a surprise. I‘ll just wait for the ‘special episodes’ to happen – at the very least, I’ll end up with numerous visits to the toilet.
Usually by mid-week, my patience level will run low as I would be running on half-tank to get through the day. For some reason the ‘extra special episode’ would usually happen during this period.
But even on these hardest days of dealing with him (borrowing the words from a mother of a 8 year old girl on the spectrum in the States) – I love him with a ferocity that can’t be named.
Last night was one of those days – that long night. I came out of it (or more accurately woke up of it) exhausted.
Despite the fatigue, came to office looking forward to bring this good and smart young man to lunch in an attempt to try cheer him up. The day before, he seemed a bit banged up from the pressures of work and me being me, figured that good food would hopefully help make him feel better – as good food usually does for me.
The plan got better when our original party of 3 became 4 with my best friend from the Group office joined in for lunch (which he ended up paying for it).
So our lunch guest (the young man) had the chance to mingle and get to know this amazing friend of mine – while humble, is super smart and actually ‘powerful’ in his role, who just happen to join us as a friend. I’m guessing (or hoping) this get to know session coupled with the delicious spread made his day.
It became one of those lunches, which was simple yet perfect, just with good food and good company – the kind of days I treasure a lot.
Later that day came another amazing news when we heard the ‘super lady’ (codenamed AI for now) won ‘the’ award of the year (all codenamed as it hasn’t been officially announced yet – the fun of writing your own post, you can write whatever you want).
It was a happy day.
And that’s the point for today – sharing happiness.
While we may not be able to recharge ourselves through happiness (for some reason always measured by events) that directly happens to us, its the happiness we share with others that helps pick us back up:
- Happiness that you try to bring to other people who‘s under the weather (even when you’re not in the best state yourself).
- Happiness of people you care a lot for.
The simple concept of sharing happiness.